HiI’ve been married for 4 years and with my wife for a total of 10 years but on and off throughout our relationship I keep thinking about my ex, not just the odd thought but excessively. I dream about her every couple of months, I don’t dream about anyone or anything else on a regular basis like this.
I know I still
have feelings for my ex whilst I do love my wife, I just don’t know how
to forget about the ex and move on. This is becoming a really big issue
for me now as its been 10 years of regular thought and dreams and I just
want to put her out of my mind and move on. I should probably also
mention that my ex is now married too, and we both have children.
What do I do to move on? Do I talk to my ex? What if she feels the same? What if she doesn’t? Usually I can make my own decisions and have control over my feelings but this one won’t go away.
Any advice would be appreciated as I fear this will eventually drive a wedge between my wife and I as my feelings for my ex seem to get stronger and stronger the more time that passes.
Usually it will take a few days or weeks to get her out of my head entirely but then I’ll dream about her or drive past her (we live within a couple of streets so cannot avoid it) and I’m back to square one and the cycle continues.
My wife and I get on well, I still love her very much and we still laugh together so I don’t think that part needs more focus, I just need to find a way to forget about my ex once and for all. I wish I could speak to her as I’m sure she’d tell me she isn’t interested and that’ll give me some sort of closure but that option is out the window as it could cause serious reprocussions which I don’t want. I need some other way of closure
PLEASE ADVICE
What do I do to move on? Do I talk to my ex? What if she feels the same? What if she doesn’t? Usually I can make my own decisions and have control over my feelings but this one won’t go away.
Any advice would be appreciated as I fear this will eventually drive a wedge between my wife and I as my feelings for my ex seem to get stronger and stronger the more time that passes.
Usually it will take a few days or weeks to get her out of my head entirely but then I’ll dream about her or drive past her (we live within a couple of streets so cannot avoid it) and I’m back to square one and the cycle continues.
My wife and I get on well, I still love her very much and we still laugh together so I don’t think that part needs more focus, I just need to find a way to forget about my ex once and for all. I wish I could speak to her as I’m sure she’d tell me she isn’t interested and that’ll give me some sort of closure but that option is out the window as it could cause serious reprocussions which I don’t want. I need some other way of closure
PLEASE ADVICE
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